Grief Therapy

You Didn’t Expect to Be This Angry

You’re at the kitchen table with a folder open in front of you, hunting for an account number nobody ever thought to write down.

Twenty minutes in, you catch yourself furious at them for it.

At them. For leaving without telling you where anything was.

Then it passes, and you’re sitting there holding a piece of paper. Asking yourself how you can be angry with a person who died.

Anger is the strongest emotion to understand in grief, and it’s the one nobody warns you about ahead of time.

Sometimes it isn’t the person at all, and you find it aimed at the event that took them, or at God.

It is real. It is valid.

I’m not going to talk you out of it, and I won’t treat it as a symptom to decode on the way to something else.

My wife’s parents needed looking after, and the two of us did that for twenty-seven years.

Grief was in that house a long time before anybody died.

So if what you lost is a marriage, or your health, or the person your mother used to be, this page is still about you.

This takes as long as it takes, and I don’t have a shortcut to hand you.

Some weeks you’ll arrive with a plan, and something that happened on Tuesday will matter more.

We’ll drop the plan and go there instead.

When one of those thoughts hits you between sessions, write it down right then, and what was going on around you when it did.

Some of the sadness stays, and I’m not going to tell you otherwise.

The overwhelming sadness can be resolved. On the birthdays and the anniversaries, the memory comes back with the joy still on it.

You’ll be at that table again, with that same folder, and the anger will come up.

You’ll know what it is this time, and it’ll pass through without taking the rest of your afternoon with it.

Call me for a complimentary 20-minute consultation, and we can start walking through this together.

It’s a no-obligation call, long enough for you to tell me who you lost and where the grief has you right now.

I work with adults by video, anywhere in Tennessee or North Carolina.

Jason looked at the offer once and decided it wasn’t worth finding out.

A complimentary consultation is where the two of us work out whether I’m the one who can help you.