Couples Therapy
You Two Have Gotten Good at Not Fighting
Things have been calm at your house lately, and nobody has brought up the thing from March.
That’s a fake peace.
You’re both paying for it every week it holds.
Underneath it, resentment keeps adding up on both sides.
Both of You Are Telling the Truth
One of you lies awake when the other one is out of town, wondering who’s in that room tonight.
The other one has been careful for months now and keeps asking, what’s it gonna take to be trusted again?
Neither one of you is making that up.
That’s why the two of you talking it out after the kids are in bed keeps going nowhere.
One of You Booked This. The Other One Got Asked
One of you has done therapy before and knows what that hour is like.
The other one has been told they probably need it and never has.
Watching it work for someone you live with is a good enough reason to walk in the door.
You’ll Both Get to Finish Your Sentences
In my office nobody gets interrupted, including by me.
You each say the true thing out loud, and the other one hears all of it before answering.
What comes out gets worked on, not saved up and used against you three weeks later.
Fighting fair looks a little different for each of you, so you’ll each learn your own half of it.
You’ll Still Fight About Money and Your Mother
You’re going to keep disagreeing about the checking account, about your mother, about whose turn it was.
The difference is that it ends, and you both know when it ended.
I’ve been married forty-three years to a woman who is my opposite in almost every way.
Two people arguing differently doesn’t worry me at all.
Your House Gets Quiet for a Different Reason
You’ll start bringing things up again, because it stops costing you so much to do it.
Neither one of you will be keeping score of the last three weeks.
You’ll want to be around each other on a Tuesday night for no particular reason.
The calm at your house won’t be something either of you has to keep up.
Bring Your Partner and Let’s Talk
Set up a free 20-minute consultation.
Bring your partner along.
You’ll each get to tell me what’s been going on, and I’ll hear both of you out.
I’m certain of one thing: this goes better with the three of us working together.
Don’t Be Jason
Jason looked at the offer once and decided it wasn’t worth finding out.
A complimentary consultation is where the two of us work out whether I’m the one who can help you.